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Supporting Both Anxious + Avoidant Partners!

Healing Attachment Wounds in Relationships:


Supporting Both Anxious + Avoidant Partners

Childhood experiences with absent or emotionally unavailable parents can leave deep emotional imprints. Mother and father wounds often shape how we attach to others, influencing our patterns in adult relationships.


Mother Wounds:

  • Occur when a mother provides care but not consistent emotional support

  • Can include criticism, emotional unavailability, or lack of empathy

  • May lead to shame, low self-worth, people-pleasing, or anxious attachment


Father Wounds:

  • Arise when a father is absent, critical, or emotionally unavailable

  • Can impact self-esteem, confidence, and the ability to trust

  • Often creates fear of rejection or challenges expressing emotions


How These Wounds Affect Relationships:


  • Anxious partners may seek closeness and reassurance, feeling hurt when their needs aren’t met

  • Avoidant partners may withdraw to protect themselves, fearing vulnerability or being overwhelmed

  • Both partners are responding from past wounds, and neither is “wrong”


Working Together:

  • Anxious partners can practice giving space, managing expectations, and listening without pressure

  • Avoidant partners can practice expressing feelings, staying present, and offering reassurance

  • Both partners benefit from understanding their own triggers and taking responsibility for their emotional responses

  • Setting boundaries, asking for what you need, and practicing self-care are essential for both


Key Insight: Healing begins within. It only takes one partner to start the process, and together, the relationship can transform. By slowing down communication, understanding triggers, and responding with compassion, anxious and avoidant partners can build safety, trust, and connection.

If you’re ready to release anxiety, rebuild trust, and feel truly balanced in your relationship, this program is for you.


If you’re ready to release anxiety, trust yourself again, and feel truly balanced, this program is for you. Book Your Free Discovery call


Ashley Howitt

Somatics-Embodied | RTT® Clinical Hypnotherapy, NLP-IFS,

Somatic Counseling Rewiring Mindset:

 
 
 

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